Authentic behaviour

We all have a natural style of behaviour, if you are acting outside of that behaviour the body uses adrenaline to get you through, once used this then goes into the body and cortisone is produced, also known as the stress hormone.

We all have the ability to do everything and stretch ourselves, and it is vital now that we can adapt behaviour and mindset....however, this shouldn’t be all of the time, if you bend yourself out of shape for the majority of the time you are likely to be pretty stressed out and eventually you bend that much... you break.

So a couple of thoughts:

Are you bending your behaviour because you have to, or because of your perception?

Are you bending your behaviour because you have to, or because of your perception.jpg

Here is an example:

An introverted process focused individual who is doing a presentation to a room full of people - flexing of behaviour is required and they are likely to feel Adrenalin filled - but this is a good stretch challenge. If this person was required to do this all the time however, they are likely to feel constantly ‘drained’.

An individual who is low on dominance but perceives successful leaders to be strong, dominant, a very ‘tell’ style leader - they then change behaviour away from their natural style to put on a ‘mask’ at work for the style they perceived is required. This is unnecessary stress (100% of the time) and is likely to result in an inconsistent style of behaviour. Individuals are at their best when at their most authentic but able to dial up and dial down some of their behaviours to suit situations.

Thought 2 - just because you CAN do something doesn’t mean you have to.

You have mastered something, even excelled at something but maybe still feel like it doesn’t energise you, you are not fulfilled?

Just because you CAN do something doesn’t mean you have to do it all of the time, it likely shows how adaptable you are and how you could adapt to do something else.

And what if you could adapt to doing something that naturally energised you?

Many of us are still in limbo between ‘Job/relationship/direction for life’ and millennial leap frog and not sure where we fit. A drive to stick with what we know and make do, but a deep down realisation that life is short and are we happy with the feeling of ‘is this it?!’.

The answer is simple - if you aren’t happy, it is in your control to change and it is ok to do things that make you happy, rather than just stick with what you know... dare I say what is ‘comfortable’.

*What energises you?

*When are you at you most natural?

*Do you create unnecessary stress on yourself by adding a ‘mask’ of behaviour?

We are now offering full behaviour and motivators assessments which are are great way to identify behaviours, opportunities to dial up and down behaviour, stress indicators, understanding of why you might react a certain way to situations or people around you.

These assessments also help us to identify the best way for you to set goals and break habits!

Get in touch, we love to geek out on this stuff 

https://www.realworldcoaching.co.uk/assessments/

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